You’re not choosing between abundance and lack, you’re choosing between abundance and thoughts of lack. There exists only abundance for you.


Life is supposed to feel good for you.

Abraham Hicks, on desire and meditation:

“Life is supposed to feel good for you. These things are always true: You will never feel good if you don’t have desires that you are allowing right now. You will never feel good holding a desire that you’re not allowing.

So, how do you not disallow?

By focusing on something that doesn’t hold the negative framework, (and) that you are better in no thought than trying to bring a negative thought to a positive thought.”

Am I being tested?

The universe, God, source, your inner being, your feelings, your judgments, your brain… are never never never never never testing you. No one is testing you. There is no test. They’re just reflecting back to you where you are, so that you can be aware, and open and love more. How else would you know where you’re at? 😘


I’m thinking of someone I want something from: love, acceptance, sex, intimacy, understanding, belonging.

And I’m asking myself, how can I be more in alignment with my inner self?

So that: A. I realize this is an inner want I need to (get to) satisfy within myself. And I release them from the obligation to satisfy it.

And: B. By being so satisfied, I become more attractive to someone who matches my satisfaction.

Talk about your problems or solve your problems?

Talk about your problems or solve your problems?

I say both.

I feel there is a mistake in the masculine mask that wants to solve problems quickly in order to not feel. Talking about your problems with another can be bonding and humanizing and a place for intimacy, compassion, empathy to build relationships and trust… by actual relating. If all you do is talk about your problems, you’re possibly afraid to take action. If all you do is solve your problems, you’re possibly afraid to be vulnerable and connect.


I’ve found that contempt for another is often a reflection of unconscious contempt for myself. Shame and guilt get repressed within me as I attempt to convince another, “It’s you, not me!” and project what I desperately (though unconsciously) don’t want to be about me out on to them. Healing usually starts with awareness, then being gentle with myself, then forgiveness, and gratitude.
After that, I still get to decide what kind of relationships I want to be in. But by then I’m deciding from a more whole and non-reactive place, rather than from a triggered and compensating place.