Makes me think of the shame too many of us carry, not for being gay or transgendered or coming out or still being in the closet, but just for feeling we are too much, or a little different, or not enough, or too conservative, too slutty, whatever we felt we might be that we were told or we thought was not appropriate, not acceptable, not normal. Somehow we got the message that we were not all that we were supposed to be. Somehow we got the message that we were supposed to be something. And then realized we weren’t that thing and it would take effort to get there and to fit in. Makes me sad. There is a great loss there. But now we get to parent ourselves and give ourselves that permission to just be what we are in any moment. I get to.