…like a girl.


I’d like to see one of these done for men and boys too. I cringe whenever I see an article with, “How to be a real man” or “Real men do this or that” in the title.



Signs are everywhere. Signs are not impressive. All signs do is reinforce what you are already focused on. You reading this is a sign that it was written for you. Or it’s a sign that you’ve been on facebook too long and need to move on. If you just moved on then it was a sign for you. You should eat a cookie now. You were just thinking, I want a cookie, but it’s breakfast time, but I said, eat a cookie now, so it’s a sign, so go on with your breakfast oreo orgy. All is well in the world. OK, seriously, signs that you are on the right path are good. Signs that you are on the wrong path are bad, ignore them, unless you are on the wrong path, then.. oh, eat the cookies. Wait, no!

Conversation with my lover

A glimpse into the little things that make my relationships work:

Lily: hey
are you at home?

Scott: hey beautiful

Lily: Ya know, you say “hey beautiful” to pretty much any woman you chat with, but every time you say it to me, I get this little thrill of happiness.
“eeee, he thinks I”m beautiful!”

Scott: Such is life in the rose garden.

Lily: It like… never gets old.
I’m not a rose. I’m a Lily!

Scott: I just laughed out loud.
you’re beautiful
in so many ways

Lily: I think the beauty of this exchange, of this feeling, is A) I trust and love you enough to really take such things you say as a true compliment and B) I have the confidence and self-love to accept it as true.

Scott: You are smart.
I was going to say that the words don’t matter, it’s the connection and intention between two people.

Lily: yes. that too. I think that’s why every time you say it, I get that thrill.

Scott: that’s the beauty of being present – it never gets old
Bumper sticker – “Being present never gets old.”

What purpose does the Ayahuasca experience serve?

Someone asked me, what purpose does the Ayahuasca experience serve? This was my answer:

In spite of all the amazing and beautiful visuals and dimensions and layers of reality that come into focus under the influence of Ayahuasca, the benefit of a traditional Ayahuasca ceremony is for one to sit in meditation in the midst of all that whirlwind and to keep reminding yourself that this too is a dream, but I am the center of it, I hold it, I am the experiencer of the dream, the storm, I am the creator of the vision, or at least the dreamer of the dream. 

No matter how crazy things got during my ceremonies, my Shaman guide by my side would simply remind me to stay present, come back to presence, come back to your meditation, come back to center, don’t buy into the cartoonland, the pretty lights, the visuals, the dreams or nightmares, any more than the waking world. This is yet another opportunity for you to awake and realize yourself present in it. 

Ayahuasca simply gives you a powerful and intense container for you to build your muscles, accelerate your being, and undo your learning, so that when the ceremony is over, you are better able to remember that you are always in ceremony, you are always swimming in colors, you are always the presence at the source, experiencing the experience.