One of the most valuable principles I’ve learned is to meet people where they are at.
To see them as already healed and already whole. To see them as who they are without their problem that they are currently explaining to me. To see them better than they see themselves. To hold that space for them.
Yet simultaneously to meet them where they are at, to allow them to be broken if that’s where they are at. To allow them to feel small if that’s where they are at. To allow them the grace and respect of their own experience. To not try to take that away from them, but rather to join them there so that they don’t feel all alone there. To say, I hear you, I’m listening, I understand, I’m here for you, I’m here with you.
To see the problem they are explaining to me, not as something to take away from them, but as something that simply wants to be integrated with them as a whole. To simply say, ok, let’s love and accept you and your problem. Let’s love and accept all of you.
It’s amazing what disintegrates and integrates when you love and accept it rather than try to fight, fix, and change it.