The more you love yourself, the more life will show you where you are not loving yourself, so that you can love that as it arises.
This means that when you feel unloved, unlovable, or not good enough, it is an indicator that you are doing a great job of loving yourself so that unloved, unlovable, or not good enough, can arise to be loved… and the appropriate response to that is to celebrate and love for yourself more, not less.
God is not testing you. God is never testing you. It is you who is testing God, playing games and asking if God still loves you when you see yourself as so pathetic, failing and stumbling. But no, still no testing, still nothing but love and support and acceptance, even for you playing such games. You cannot fail enough, struggle, nor stumble enough to get God to turn its loving gaze from you. This is what it means to be God, and one day you will come to realize that this is what it means to be you.
The sad truth is that you may not want men to be childish, and insecure, and immature, but that’s what you get when you tell them as kids that they shouldn’t feel, shouldn’t cry, shouldn’t be boys, should “grow up” and “be a man”, when they don’t have a foundation of self to build on.
This is a recipe for man-child, and men resent this aspect of themselves as much if not more than any observers might. Because again and still, were expected to not feel, not cry, “grow up” and “be a man.”
You’re not choosing between abundance and lack, you’re choosing between abundance and thoughts of lack. There exists only abundance for you.
Abraham Hicks, on desire and meditation:
“Life is supposed to feel good for you. These things are always true: You will never feel good if you don’t have desires that you are allowing right now. You will never feel good holding a desire that you’re not allowing.
So, how do you not disallow?
By focusing on something that doesn’t hold the negative framework, (and) that you are better in no thought than trying to bring a negative thought to a positive thought.”
The universe, God, source, your inner being, your feelings, your judgments, your brain… are never never never never never testing you. No one is testing you. There is no test. They’re just reflecting back to you where you are, so that you can be aware, and open and love more. How else would you know where you’re at? 😘
I’m thinking of someone I want something from: love, acceptance, sex, intimacy, understanding, belonging.
And I’m asking myself, how can I be more in alignment with my inner self?
So that: A. I realize this is an inner want I need to (get to) satisfy within myself. And I release them from the obligation to satisfy it.
And: B. By being so satisfied, I become more attractive to someone who matches my satisfaction.